The Hidden Frustration of Divorce (And How to Finally Break Free)
Divorce is often described as a heartbreaking, stressful, and challenging time, but one word captures the experience more deeply than...
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Hey, I'm Linzi!
I’m here to help you transform your life after separation or divorce.
My coaching journey started from my own personal experience of divorce when I discovered that although there was plenty of advice out there on the practicalities of divorce...what to ask your lawyer, what forms to complete to get divorced etc there was nothing out there to support you through the emotional rollercoaster you suddenly find yourself on!
So, I decided to put my psychology degree and counselling qualifications to good use and create the support system I wished I had. And that’s how Dazzle After Divorce was born! Here's where you'll find your toolkit for emotional healing and building the future you desire and deserve. 💛
My Story
I was married for 16 years when my husband decided to leave. At the time, I had no savings, no career prospects and no hope.
What I did have was a ton of fear, debt and heartbreak, and no idea how I would support myself or my children. I was a stay-at-home mum for 14 years, without my name even being on the mortgage.
Yikes right?
I was utterly heartbroken, terrified and completely overwhelmed. I struggled with having to manage all the very different reactions, emotions and advice from friends and family. There was no room in my brain to work through the major life decisions that had to be made very quickly whilst being in a highly emotive state, never mind room to recognize, understand and process my feelings. I was on a really scary, really fast emotional rollercoaster.
I was grieving for my entire life. The past felt like it had all been a lie and I would look back on old photographs thinking “Did he love me when that was taken or was he just going through the motions?”
I was obsessed with finding “The Moment”. The moment it all went wrong. The moment his feelings changed. The moment he knew. The moment he decided. The moment he switched off. Happy memories had been tarnished with doubts and I questioned every time I thought we had been happy.
I had also lost the future I had envisioned with my husband….us dancing together at our kids’ weddings, travelling when he retired, doting on our grandkids.
It felt like both my past and my future had been viciously snatched away from me and I spent a good lot of time grieving for them.
I went through every stage of grief imaginable. Denial, anger, frustration, bargaining, guilt, depression, resentment. I yo-yoed back and forth between them, sometimes feeling them all in the space of an hour!
And that’s OK. It’s necessary. It’s natural. And it’s being human.
The danger isn’t in feeling these. In fact, feeling these is part of the healing process. The danger is when you stay stuck in them. I realised that if I was questioning my past and the future I had envisioned was gone, all I had left was the present. And I had to make the most of it.
So I faced my fears, tackled my financial issues, and worked tirelessly to rebuild my life. Through this process, I discovered my passion for coaching and empowerment. I realised that while there was plenty of advice on the practical and legal aspects of divorce, there was a significant gap in support for mental and emotional well-being. At that moment I knew in my heart how I could make magic from my mess. How good could come from my awful situation. How I could show my children that when life breaks your heart, you can pick up the pieces and make something new and sometimes something even better from them.
That’s why I started this coaching business – to provide the support I wish I had during my own journey.
Qualifications
Counselling
After gaining my counselling qualification through COSCA, I'm delighted to be a registered member of COSCA, the governing body in Scotland for counselling and psychotherapy!
Being a member means I'm dedicated to providing you with the absolute best. It's not just a nice logo; it's a promise to uphold the highest standards and ethics.
I'm always striving to ensure my clients get the very best possible from me! Knowing I'm backed by COSCA means you're guaranteed a professional who is always striving for excellence. Your well-being is my top priority, and this accreditation ensures you receive the highest standard of care.
Psychology
Bsc (Hons) in Psychology from Glasgow Caledonian University. Dissertaton topic Mind Over Matter: The Impact of Positive Attitude on Overcoming Physical Disabilities.
Holding a degree in Psychology means I have an in-depth understanding of human behavior, thought processes, and emotional well-being. This academic background equips me with a comprehensive foundation in psychological principles, research methods, and therapeutic techniques.
My psychology degree signifies that I have completed rigorous coursework and training, allowing me to expertly analyze and address various emotional and mental health challenges. This knowledge is crucial in providing effective support and strategies tailored to your unique needs.
With this qualification, I bring a high level of professionalism, insight, and evidence-based practices to help you navigate the complexities of emotional healing and personal growth after separation or divorce. My expertise ensures that you receive well-rounded, scientifically grounded support on your journey to a brighter future.
Coaching
ICF accredited coaching course with The Clique Academy. As a certified Life Coach with specialized training in Self-Love and Money Mindset, I bring a wealth of knowledge and expertise to support your personal transformation.
My life coaching certification signifies that I have undergone extensive training to help individuals set and achieve their personal and professional goals. I use proven coaching techniques to empower you to overcome obstacles, gain clarity, and create a fulfilling, purpose-driven life. My qualification in self-love coaching focuses on helping you build a strong, positive relationship with yourself. This specialized training equips me with the tools to guide you in developing self-compassion, confidence, and a deep sense of self-worth, which are crucial for emotional healing and personal growth. As a money mindset coach, I help you transform your relationship with money. This means I have the expertise to guide you in identifying and overcoming limiting beliefs about finances, fostering a healthy and abundant financial mindset that supports your overall well-being and life goals.
With these combined qualifications, I offer a holistic approach to coaching that addresses various aspects of your life, ensuring comprehensive support on your journey to healing, empowerment, and financial confidence.
NLP
As a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), I have achieved an advanced level of expertise in this powerful psychological approach. NLP focuses on understanding and changing thought patterns and behaviors to achieve personal goals and improve emotional well-being.
Being a Master Practitioner means I have undergone extensive training and have honed specialized skills to expertly guide you through transforming your mindset and overcoming challenges. My deep knowledge of NLP techniques allows me to help you reprogram negative thought patterns, enhance your communication skills, and empower you to build a fulfilling, joyful future after separation or divorce.
EFT
As a qualified practitioner in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), I possess advanced expertise in this innovative approach to emotional healing. EFT, often referred to as "tapping," involves using gentle tapping on specific meridian points while focusing on emotional issues, which helps release negative emotions and reduce stress.
My qualification in EFT means I have undergone extensive training to master these techniques, enabling me to guide you through the process of addressing and resolving deep-seated emotional challenges. This approach can be particularly effective for managing anxiety, trauma, and emotional pain, providing you with practical tools to enhance your emotional well-being.
Why Choose me?
There are other divorce coaches out there, but few focus on YOU not your ex. I don't want to simply discuss whether your ex was a narcissist or have a "First Wives Club" bitching session. I want you to focus on yourself, your healing and your future.
I have actually walked in your shoes. I know what it feels like to be overwhelmed, terrified, and unsure of the future. More importantly, I know how to move beyond those feelings to a place of strength, confidence, and happiness.
Here’s what sets my coaching apart:
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Empathy and Understanding: Having been through a similar journey, I truly understand the pain and uncertainty you're experiencing. I'm here to provide a compassionate and non-judgmental space for you to heal and grow.
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Future-Focused Approach: We won’t dwell on the past or your ex.. Instead, we’ll focus on building a bright, fulfilling future. My coaching is designed to lift you out of victim mode, help you move forward, develop bulletproof confidence, and create the life you want.
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Personalised Support: Every journey is unique, and my coaching is tailored to meet your specific needs. Whether you're struggling with co-parenting, rediscovering yourself, or preparing to find new love, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
Let's move forward together
I believe in your ability to overcome this challenging time and emerge stronger than ever. With my guidance, you can reclaim your power, rebuild your life, and thrive.
Ready to take the next step? Reach out for a free consultation and let’s start this transformative journey together.
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